Friendship

Hellooooo!!


I thought a good topic to kick off with is friendship. I know that the meaning of friendship has been defined by so many people, but I'd thought I'd give a definition, not by some philosopher, but by what I see as being a friend.


So here goes, for years now I find myself dissapointed in people claiming to be my friends, "friends" accusing me of trying to steal their boyfriends, "friends" that drop me at the last moment, "friends" that are always too busy with their own stuff and expecting support, but is not willing to support me when I need it., "friends" that misses the things I do for them and then when I ask something, get an answer like "What have you ever done for me?"


It breaks my heart, and yet I am always willing to hand out another chance.


I concider a true friend to treat you like family, not the type of family you see once a year, but like a brother or sister.  You won't forget your brother or sister's Birthday, so don't forget your friends Birthday.  You will never give up on your brother/sister, why give up on your friends when the going gets tough?


I expect that a true friend will tell me if I have offended them in any way, and that we can talk about it and solve whatever bad feelings there is, and then forgive and forget, not to forgive and tell the whole world about what a bad person I am.


As a friend, you should always consider every single possible solution and option before you just say no, sorry I can't help you.  It means alot if you do something for your friend, and even more when you went out of your way to accomodate them.


We are all people, we all experience difficulties everyday, no matter what grade of difficulty that may be.  Remember that, and the next time a friend asks how your day was, remeber to ask how their day was after your reply. It's a simple gesture to show you care.


As we get older and take on motherhood and marage, friends become even more important, a friend can be your safe haven and sanity, your escape and your pillar. Always remember that before judging too harshly. 


A friend should always keep their word, and honor their promisses. If you said you would do something, try your very best to carry it out, even if it's a simple coffee date, send the sms if you said you would.


A true friend will sit with you, when no one else wants to, when your at your worst and very unpleasant. True friends don't give up on you.  Loyalty, and appreciation is so important and the golden cherry on top- TRUST. How can you be friends with someone you do not trust?


Friends do not manipulate friends, or try to be better than one another.  Friends encourage eachother to do things we're scared of or think we can't do.  Friends should be available for a 911 call any time of the day or night.


Friends try to understand where you're coming from, even if they don't agree. Friends will help you do research even when they see no need for it. A friend should always be honest, but know when honestly is to be given straight or subtly- not everyone can take the truth in the same way.


Friends be kind with your words, for they may come back to haunt you.  Do not speak without considering what impact your words may have, words are very easily misunderstood or misinterpreted. BE KIND!


Friendship does not know jealousy, in the end we are all friends, no matter what the bonds.  Make your friends feel special, and in return if they are true friends, that honestly care, they will be good to you, and make you feel special, they'll be your 911, and your peace and sanity.


Be a good friend, for friends are the family we choose to share our live's with.