Don't forget

Hi my 3 followersJ

Thank you for showing me love by taking the time to accept and read what I send! I appreciate it so much!! DANKIEJ

I thought it would be nice to add to Claire’s blog for the week- Easter.

http://clairemeintjes.blogspot.com/ check it out!

I agree completely it is so easy to forget what the actual reasons behind holidays are.  When you think Christmas you think holiday time and gifts, when you hear Easter, you do see the Easter bunny and lots of chocolate eggs…  It is so very important that we do remember the true meaning behind all the fun and gifts and chocolate eggs!  So to add to the blog above, I would like to say, REMEMBER the excruciating pain Jesus went through before He was even nailed to the cross, how He was abused, and spit at, how He suffered so very much and then died, so that we may have eternal life.

That is a big and very selfless thing to do. . . So every time you give an Easter egg to someone this Easter remember why we have Easter.  It’s very easy to forget, so let’s remember this Easter what is important!

Take this long weekend and be selfless, give and expect nothing back.  Smile to a stranger, and maybe change a life.  Take some of those eggs you get, and give them to a beggar along the side of the road, and maybe get to see him smile.  Spread the love, to everyone, because at the end of the day who are we to judge? Judging is in God’s hands, I forgot, because it’s so easy to judge people for their indecencies.

Do not give over to temptation, we get dragged down by evil so easily, we are so very quick to react, we don’t think things through- by reacting we give in and before we know what is happening, we have sinned…I am guilty of just that, and though I will admit I had fun, when I took the time to think, I realized how easily I was dragged in by evil.

Be cautious friends, be pure and honest and I hope each one of you have a fantastic Easter weekend.

Love

Me

 

Judging without knowing

Hi MaikiesJ

It’s strange how different we all are…  We all think in different ways, and see things differently, we have different understandings and different views, we all prefer different personalities and we all have different values. . .

I sometimes find myself in a situation where my brain cannot understand WHY someone act the way they do, or how they can be scared of something simple like coins.  I once watched The Tyra Banks show where they had to face their fears, people were scared of coins (YES actual coins!), and dolphins, there was the normal fears like heights and spiders etc. but I could not get my mind to understand the fear of coins…Dead metal, they can’t cause any harm, or injure you unless they get thrown at you…

When I took the time to think about it, I came to conclusion that there are probably a lot of people that find it strange that I can’t take a elevator, it’s such a natural simple thing to do, take an elevator to the floor you need to be on, especially if it’s on say the 7^th floor, why on earth would you want to take the stairs?  So who am I to judge someone that’s terrified of coins?

Have you ever taken the time to sit and consider why someone did something?

I never used to, I always use to judge according to my standards… It’s what most of us do, we are so used to be selfish in the way we judge people.  Next time someone does something you think to be rude or harsh, take a moment and think why they are acting the way they are… Yes sometimes the outcome might still be that they are unreasonable, but most of the time you’d find that there is a very good reason behind their actions.

I have a friend I disliked watching movies with, because I had to constantly keep her informed of what just happened or what someone just said, or why something is happening, because she missed a vital moment earlier in the movie, so I would try and see movies with her that I’ve seen before, so I wouldn’t miss too much.  We were sitting in a movie, and feeling annoyed even though it is the 2^nd time seeing it, that I have to explain such a simple movie to her…  I was surprised when the movie ended and the end credits were showing by her response to the movie.

“This movie has an awesome sound track.” She could name a lot of the songs that featured in the movie and some techniques that they used when filming, and then only did I notice why she was always lost… I had no idea what music was in the movie, my mind doesn’t focus on that, I hear the music but I can’t recall any of the songs.  I was just looking at the actors and the scenery, whereas she was seeing the artistic side to the movie. I never judged her or anyone after that day, I will gladly explain the movie, as I also miss something here or there, having learned to observe more than just the actors.

It’s very easy to think the worst, it takes some effort to find the meaning or reason behind the actions, but it’s so worth it! People always researching things, reading up on things, when I would never… After taking some time to think about it, I came to the conclusion that some people do research so they feel more confident when they make a decision about something, some people might have made an error before, and might feel the need to research it now, before it happens again.

Some people were not always informed about things, so rather than to wonder if they heard everything, they research it. I get it now!

I hope the examples that I’ve given will help you see simple things other people do and try to understand them, rather than to judge them.  Take the time to contemplate what the reasons may be behind someone’s decision, or the way they acted.

It’s not a nice feeling when you get scolded when someone misunderstanding what you said, or did. . .So before YOU are too harsh to someone else try and understand where they are coming from..

<3 Till next time maikiesJ

Friendship

Hellooooo!!


I thought a good topic to kick off with is friendship. I know that the meaning of friendship has been defined by so many people, but I'd thought I'd give a definition, not by some philosopher, but by what I see as being a friend.


So here goes, for years now I find myself dissapointed in people claiming to be my friends, "friends" accusing me of trying to steal their boyfriends, "friends" that drop me at the last moment, "friends" that are always too busy with their own stuff and expecting support, but is not willing to support me when I need it., "friends" that misses the things I do for them and then when I ask something, get an answer like "What have you ever done for me?"


It breaks my heart, and yet I am always willing to hand out another chance.


I concider a true friend to treat you like family, not the type of family you see once a year, but like a brother or sister.  You won't forget your brother or sister's Birthday, so don't forget your friends Birthday.  You will never give up on your brother/sister, why give up on your friends when the going gets tough?


I expect that a true friend will tell me if I have offended them in any way, and that we can talk about it and solve whatever bad feelings there is, and then forgive and forget, not to forgive and tell the whole world about what a bad person I am.


As a friend, you should always consider every single possible solution and option before you just say no, sorry I can't help you.  It means alot if you do something for your friend, and even more when you went out of your way to accomodate them.


We are all people, we all experience difficulties everyday, no matter what grade of difficulty that may be.  Remember that, and the next time a friend asks how your day was, remeber to ask how their day was after your reply. It's a simple gesture to show you care.


As we get older and take on motherhood and marage, friends become even more important, a friend can be your safe haven and sanity, your escape and your pillar. Always remember that before judging too harshly. 


A friend should always keep their word, and honor their promisses. If you said you would do something, try your very best to carry it out, even if it's a simple coffee date, send the sms if you said you would.


A true friend will sit with you, when no one else wants to, when your at your worst and very unpleasant. True friends don't give up on you.  Loyalty, and appreciation is so important and the golden cherry on top- TRUST. How can you be friends with someone you do not trust?


Friends do not manipulate friends, or try to be better than one another.  Friends encourage eachother to do things we're scared of or think we can't do.  Friends should be available for a 911 call any time of the day or night.


Friends try to understand where you're coming from, even if they don't agree. Friends will help you do research even when they see no need for it. A friend should always be honest, but know when honestly is to be given straight or subtly- not everyone can take the truth in the same way.


Friends be kind with your words, for they may come back to haunt you.  Do not speak without considering what impact your words may have, words are very easily misunderstood or misinterpreted. BE KIND!


Friendship does not know jealousy, in the end we are all friends, no matter what the bonds.  Make your friends feel special, and in return if they are true friends, that honestly care, they will be good to you, and make you feel special, they'll be your 911, and your peace and sanity.


Be a good friend, for friends are the family we choose to share our live's with.