Thank you maikies

Friends, you have gotta love them- most of the time. I know sometimes you would love to strangle some of them, but at the end of the day they are still your friends. The family you can choose, who needs to be related by blood?

This blog is to appreciate each and every one of my friends. The youngsters, the mommies, and everyone in between:) I'd like to start off by saying, I promise to try my best to be a good friend. I don't like to be hurt by my friends, so I will try not to hurt you.

To the Mommies- I adore your children, even when they give me pulptations sometimes and make me want to tear my hair out. I love them as I love you, because they are you. I cherish the nights spent drinking wine and complaining, and the nights spent dancing..even if it's just me trying to cheer you up:)

To the youngsters- thank you for keeping me young:) Always up for a jol, or a dare. Pushing me to my limits, then laughing very hard when we make fools of ourselves. Dancing our bum off, then eating McDonalds. Talking about stupid and serious things.

To the guys, thank you for the bear hugs! The lectures when it comes to my choice of music. Thank you for dancing with me, and for the strange looks when I sing Justin Bieber songs. Thanks for sticking up for me, and blocking the moshpit from pulling me in!

Thanks maikies, for loving me! What would life be like without you?. . . .EXTREMELY BORING!

Know that even though we fight, or disagree, I will forgive you, almost instantly- after swearing a bit and hitting something-hehe.

Hope all the maikies have a fabulous day, and take some time to cherish the maikies is your life! Think...what do each and everyone of them mean to you, and do for you, without even trying. 

 BUT most of all REMEMBER to have fun!

Why do we sell ourselves short so willingly?

Why do we sell ourselves short so willingly?  It so easy to believe it when someone criticizes you, or say something bad about you. It’s so easy to tell yourself that it doesn’t just go like that in your home, life, relationship… WHY are we comparing our life’s to other peoples?   AND when we compare, WHY ON EARTH do we compare it to people who are in the same boat at rougher sea’s?

I’ll tell you why… because we’d all like to believe our lives are not so bad. There will always be someone who’s relationship is worse than yours, there will be someone fatter than you, someone with less, just because your husband or boyfriend doesn’t necessarily hit you, doesn’t mean what he is doing isn’t another form of abuse.

This blog may seem a bit feminist, but I’d like to get a couple of things off of my chest… We deserve to be loved, to be spoilt, to be given a chance to excel, and what do we do?  We stand back so the men in our lives can excel, can become a big shot at his work, can go out and do what they want, when they want. We go out of our way to be nice, arrange things, to make them feel better. . .

We DESERVE better, no matter who says what! We deseve to get flowers at least once a month! We deserve to be loved, and appreciated.  We deserve a chance to excel in our job’s or whatever we want to excel in. We deserve to be told that we are beautiful EVERY SINGLE DAY!

Why do we think we don’t deserve these things? OR why are we okay if we don’t get it? Think, take a minute and really think. . . . . . . . .

What did you do for your man today? Did he appreciate it, or expect it?

How was the good bye you got this morning?

It shouldn’t be like most of you answered!  Every morning you should say good bye like you are never going to see each other again, because you don’t know if you are going to make it home that night.

We are not always innocent, I know, we also do bad and wrong things sometimes, but making a list, we as women sell ourselves short so often…EVERY SINGLE DAY OF OUR LIVES!

Today do something for you!

Know your worth, because you are worth more than your weight in gold and diamonds!

Positivity

We often underestimate our own will power...  the power of being positive, the power of our minds...
I woke up yesterday feeling unusually positive, I woke up with a "can do" attitude, and I did everything I wanted to yesterday, I said no to alot of people offering me sweets and food I shouldn't be eating, I went to boot camp and kept up with all the excersises, I got home and ate my little meal, not even a bite more than I should.

It's amazing, that when you set your mind on something, fully set your mind on something how eager you get to accomplish it.  It's easy to say no to chocolate, or whatever other weakness you might have.  It was easy to go do excersises, rather than going home and watching TV because I have worked the entire day and I am tired. 

Why do we always take the easy roads? Why do we always complain, rather than look for solutions? Why is it so easy to just say, I'm tired, or I don't feel like it, or any other lame excuse you might use. I see alot of people and speak to alot of people every day. It amazes me how some people can do anything, and others choose to just say I can't. ALOT of people at this point will probably think.."It's easy for you to say."  Maybe it is, but I truly believe everyone should try their very best in everything they do, including me, and then if you fail try again, don't just say I can't or think you cannot without even trying!

There is alwways someone that has worse problems than yours, that would give up anything to have your problems instead of their own-NEVER forget that. Get a "CAN DO" attitude, because it makes your life so much more pleasant, and easy! If you want to do something REALLY mean it, set your mind to it, stick to it. If you go into something halfheartedly, you will not succeed, your wasting your time, get your mind in the game, and DO IT!

Start caring for others, see their problems, not just your own, no matter if you think their problems are insignificant, because where would we be, if we all thought about our own problems and never listened, we would also never know just how blessed we are, if we didn't listen to other people.

Start taking baby steps, get a goal, write it down, and when you want to reach it, be realistic, then commit to reaching it, and put your head in the game and pack your "can do" attitude!

I challenge you to do this!

See the beauty

As the hail is falling outside my window, I had to stop and take a minute to take it in. For some people rain and hail means, damage to your car, traffic lights that go out, people who start driving like idiots....

If you are one of those people, take a minute to forget about the bad things that come with the weather, and take in the beauty of it all. The little white pieces of ice, falling from Heaven to colour the ground white, and entertains the kids. 

Watch as the Heavens open up, and thousands and thousands of drops fall. . .every drop brings with it new life, and a message that spring is in the air.  The green will start to move in as the brown disappears.

Rain brings hope, hope that tomorrow will bring with it life, and happiness. Rain is God's way of showering us with blessings, in the form of flowers, green grass, and trees putting their leave jackets back on...

A memory so sweet, as getting caught in the rain, getting soaked, while kissing the one you love, laughing about it, and remembering it as a joyful, happy event.

We tend to see the ugly and the wrong so easily, we tend to forget that life and nature has to be balanced, for every negative there has to be a positive. Take some time to see what so many of us miss so easily.

Take some time to take a look outside late in the afternoon- YES our world is polluted- BUT the sunset is an amazing this to see- everyday it is as beautiful as the day before. Take time to notice the beautiful plants, the flowers!

Then take some time to appreciate the people, who like rain, can bring life to your life, who brings you sunshine on a cloudy day. People who help you transform from winter to spring. People who hail down on you when you need it!

See the beauty, when others struggle to see more than that what is presented.

Hope everyone has an amazing week!

Something to think about-Might change your life!

I have been really bad at my blog... Sorry I haven't written in a while, didn't have much on my mind.

Well, here goes...
While driving to work one morning a guy who stopped next to me at the robot had his music blaring, it was so loud it could have been on full blast in my car. Needless to say I was more than a little irritated by this guy, but as I pulled off feeling like I normally feel while driving to work in the mornings, I thought again, who the hell am I to think bad thought about that person? It's his car, and if he wants to blow his windows out with the music why shouldn't he? 

It also occurred to me that all people are the same, no I don't mean the same in the way they look, or what they do, I mean we are the same species- human. We all have to eat, and drink. We all learn to drive some time, and we all speak, no matter what language, we all walk and talk and yes, some people earn more than others, some are dirt poor and some are rich driving the top of the range vehicles that’s out.  Some went to varsity and some didn't, some are the boss and some are simply an employee.  At the end of the day we are all human. . .

We do not need to stand back for others, we do not need to feel inferior, we need not feel ashamed if we cannot do something someone else can. We all make different decisions that lead us to where we are.  No one person is better than another, no matter your status, or your knowledge.

So for those people who think they are better- you are not. And for those people who feel small and insignificant you are so much more!

So next time you’re sitting in your little car and someone stops next to you in a BMW or a Mercedes, SO WHAT, it's just a car, it doesn't make them any better. Next time you go somewhere and the person you talk to doesn't know the simplest things, don't look down, they might not have had the opportunity to ask the questions to get the answers. We all do what we can, to be the best, or better than others, and we sometimes kill ourselves doing it.  We do not need so many things we want- so stop killing yourself over what you might have or don't have, because while you’re doing all of that, life is passing you by, and your missing it!

So there's something to consider and think about!

Why don't you practice being just human today, and who knows where it will take you!

Why ask...

I don’t know whom of you watch Desperate Housewives…last weeks episode was quite interesting.  Have you ever asked, why me, or why am I so lucky why not someone else? Have you ever asked what happens when my luck runs out? All these things we constantly worry about, things that keep us up at night.

Well for those who do not watch Desperate Housewives, here is one answer….WHY ASK?

Why ask, when clearly there is no answer, enjoy it while it lasts and deal with it when it ends.  And if you’re one of the unlucky people out there, ride out the wave, and enjoy it when the tides changes, cope and take the days as they come, because mulling over why bad things happen to you or to good people won’t do you any good , it’s not a question with an answer.

For the lucky one’s of you out there, it’s so easy to feel guilty about your luck, when there are so many people with little or no luck at all. Don’t feel guitly, just enjoy it while you have it, be greatful.  It’s not an easy thing for some people to enter a lot of competitions and never win a thing, and here you come winning something every now and then.  So enjoy the luck, because you don’t know when it’ll run out, and when it does, you will feel a little less bitter, knowing all the blessings you have received.

So when you are sitting somewhere by yourself, thinking as us woman so often do, mulling and trying to make sense of the world, and asking so many questions. . .figure out the one’s with answers and for the rest..well…WHY ASK?

Hope everyone has a great Friday and weekend!

Does Absence make the heart grow fonder?

“It is said that absence makes the heart grow fonder”… and in conflict with that it is also said “Out of sight out of mind.”  Which one of these statements is really ever true?

I have found that when in love absence does make the heart grow fonder.  The longing, the anticipation as you wait to see that person again, to hear their voice and touch their hand.  It is a difficult thing when absence is forever, a heart breaking unbearable pain.  As the absence gets longer, the heart aches more, with every passing of every waking day, your feet gets heavier and your spirits are lower.  But oh how sweet a reunion it is when you meet each other once again, the long awaited kiss, the lingering stare, the knowing that all is right in the world.  Tomorrow the sun shines brighter just because of that person.  We are not meant to travel life’s paths alone; we need someone to witness, to participate, to scold and to applause. .. 

I have also found that when anger is involved out of sight is truly out of mind . . . the need to forget about someone, the longing not to hear their voices again or to look into their eyes.  And when absence is forever, it is not so difficult, because as the absence grows longer, the memories fade, until it is all but forgotten.  It’s a cruel thing cutting strings with another life, but however cruel it might be, a much needed thing to do sometimes.  When you feel your heart getting heavier, your spirit’s laying low, when your hearts humming bird has died from the cold snow.  When knives are stabbed into your back, and pain causes a heart attack, with every word and every deed, some people plant an evil seed, those are the people best to forget, and save yourself a lot of regret.  Cut your losses and then move on, so the sun may return and your heart may sing once more.

Everybody deserves someone to love and to be loved; it’s not an easy thing to find.  But when you do hold on and be good, make hearts grow fonder when absence is around.  Think twice before you do something hurtful for revenge, and let go when you can see it’s not right. Be good to others and in return they ought to be good to you, and if they’re not you know what to do. . .

Don't forget

Hi my 3 followersJ

Thank you for showing me love by taking the time to accept and read what I send! I appreciate it so much!! DANKIEJ

I thought it would be nice to add to Claire’s blog for the week- Easter.

http://clairemeintjes.blogspot.com/ check it out!

I agree completely it is so easy to forget what the actual reasons behind holidays are.  When you think Christmas you think holiday time and gifts, when you hear Easter, you do see the Easter bunny and lots of chocolate eggs…  It is so very important that we do remember the true meaning behind all the fun and gifts and chocolate eggs!  So to add to the blog above, I would like to say, REMEMBER the excruciating pain Jesus went through before He was even nailed to the cross, how He was abused, and spit at, how He suffered so very much and then died, so that we may have eternal life.

That is a big and very selfless thing to do. . . So every time you give an Easter egg to someone this Easter remember why we have Easter.  It’s very easy to forget, so let’s remember this Easter what is important!

Take this long weekend and be selfless, give and expect nothing back.  Smile to a stranger, and maybe change a life.  Take some of those eggs you get, and give them to a beggar along the side of the road, and maybe get to see him smile.  Spread the love, to everyone, because at the end of the day who are we to judge? Judging is in God’s hands, I forgot, because it’s so easy to judge people for their indecencies.

Do not give over to temptation, we get dragged down by evil so easily, we are so very quick to react, we don’t think things through- by reacting we give in and before we know what is happening, we have sinned…I am guilty of just that, and though I will admit I had fun, when I took the time to think, I realized how easily I was dragged in by evil.

Be cautious friends, be pure and honest and I hope each one of you have a fantastic Easter weekend.

Love

Me

 

Judging without knowing

Hi MaikiesJ

It’s strange how different we all are…  We all think in different ways, and see things differently, we have different understandings and different views, we all prefer different personalities and we all have different values. . .

I sometimes find myself in a situation where my brain cannot understand WHY someone act the way they do, or how they can be scared of something simple like coins.  I once watched The Tyra Banks show where they had to face their fears, people were scared of coins (YES actual coins!), and dolphins, there was the normal fears like heights and spiders etc. but I could not get my mind to understand the fear of coins…Dead metal, they can’t cause any harm, or injure you unless they get thrown at you…

When I took the time to think about it, I came to conclusion that there are probably a lot of people that find it strange that I can’t take a elevator, it’s such a natural simple thing to do, take an elevator to the floor you need to be on, especially if it’s on say the 7^th floor, why on earth would you want to take the stairs?  So who am I to judge someone that’s terrified of coins?

Have you ever taken the time to sit and consider why someone did something?

I never used to, I always use to judge according to my standards… It’s what most of us do, we are so used to be selfish in the way we judge people.  Next time someone does something you think to be rude or harsh, take a moment and think why they are acting the way they are… Yes sometimes the outcome might still be that they are unreasonable, but most of the time you’d find that there is a very good reason behind their actions.

I have a friend I disliked watching movies with, because I had to constantly keep her informed of what just happened or what someone just said, or why something is happening, because she missed a vital moment earlier in the movie, so I would try and see movies with her that I’ve seen before, so I wouldn’t miss too much.  We were sitting in a movie, and feeling annoyed even though it is the 2^nd time seeing it, that I have to explain such a simple movie to her…  I was surprised when the movie ended and the end credits were showing by her response to the movie.

“This movie has an awesome sound track.” She could name a lot of the songs that featured in the movie and some techniques that they used when filming, and then only did I notice why she was always lost… I had no idea what music was in the movie, my mind doesn’t focus on that, I hear the music but I can’t recall any of the songs.  I was just looking at the actors and the scenery, whereas she was seeing the artistic side to the movie. I never judged her or anyone after that day, I will gladly explain the movie, as I also miss something here or there, having learned to observe more than just the actors.

It’s very easy to think the worst, it takes some effort to find the meaning or reason behind the actions, but it’s so worth it! People always researching things, reading up on things, when I would never… After taking some time to think about it, I came to the conclusion that some people do research so they feel more confident when they make a decision about something, some people might have made an error before, and might feel the need to research it now, before it happens again.

Some people were not always informed about things, so rather than to wonder if they heard everything, they research it. I get it now!

I hope the examples that I’ve given will help you see simple things other people do and try to understand them, rather than to judge them.  Take the time to contemplate what the reasons may be behind someone’s decision, or the way they acted.

It’s not a nice feeling when you get scolded when someone misunderstanding what you said, or did. . .So before YOU are too harsh to someone else try and understand where they are coming from..

<3 Till next time maikiesJ

Friendship

Hellooooo!!


I thought a good topic to kick off with is friendship. I know that the meaning of friendship has been defined by so many people, but I'd thought I'd give a definition, not by some philosopher, but by what I see as being a friend.


So here goes, for years now I find myself dissapointed in people claiming to be my friends, "friends" accusing me of trying to steal their boyfriends, "friends" that drop me at the last moment, "friends" that are always too busy with their own stuff and expecting support, but is not willing to support me when I need it., "friends" that misses the things I do for them and then when I ask something, get an answer like "What have you ever done for me?"


It breaks my heart, and yet I am always willing to hand out another chance.


I concider a true friend to treat you like family, not the type of family you see once a year, but like a brother or sister.  You won't forget your brother or sister's Birthday, so don't forget your friends Birthday.  You will never give up on your brother/sister, why give up on your friends when the going gets tough?


I expect that a true friend will tell me if I have offended them in any way, and that we can talk about it and solve whatever bad feelings there is, and then forgive and forget, not to forgive and tell the whole world about what a bad person I am.


As a friend, you should always consider every single possible solution and option before you just say no, sorry I can't help you.  It means alot if you do something for your friend, and even more when you went out of your way to accomodate them.


We are all people, we all experience difficulties everyday, no matter what grade of difficulty that may be.  Remember that, and the next time a friend asks how your day was, remeber to ask how their day was after your reply. It's a simple gesture to show you care.


As we get older and take on motherhood and marage, friends become even more important, a friend can be your safe haven and sanity, your escape and your pillar. Always remember that before judging too harshly. 


A friend should always keep their word, and honor their promisses. If you said you would do something, try your very best to carry it out, even if it's a simple coffee date, send the sms if you said you would.


A true friend will sit with you, when no one else wants to, when your at your worst and very unpleasant. True friends don't give up on you.  Loyalty, and appreciation is so important and the golden cherry on top- TRUST. How can you be friends with someone you do not trust?


Friends do not manipulate friends, or try to be better than one another.  Friends encourage eachother to do things we're scared of or think we can't do.  Friends should be available for a 911 call any time of the day or night.


Friends try to understand where you're coming from, even if they don't agree. Friends will help you do research even when they see no need for it. A friend should always be honest, but know when honestly is to be given straight or subtly- not everyone can take the truth in the same way.


Friends be kind with your words, for they may come back to haunt you.  Do not speak without considering what impact your words may have, words are very easily misunderstood or misinterpreted. BE KIND!


Friendship does not know jealousy, in the end we are all friends, no matter what the bonds.  Make your friends feel special, and in return if they are true friends, that honestly care, they will be good to you, and make you feel special, they'll be your 911, and your peace and sanity.


Be a good friend, for friends are the family we choose to share our live's with.