Why ask...

I don’t know whom of you watch Desperate Housewives…last weeks episode was quite interesting.  Have you ever asked, why me, or why am I so lucky why not someone else? Have you ever asked what happens when my luck runs out? All these things we constantly worry about, things that keep us up at night.

Well for those who do not watch Desperate Housewives, here is one answer….WHY ASK?

Why ask, when clearly there is no answer, enjoy it while it lasts and deal with it when it ends.  And if you’re one of the unlucky people out there, ride out the wave, and enjoy it when the tides changes, cope and take the days as they come, because mulling over why bad things happen to you or to good people won’t do you any good , it’s not a question with an answer.

For the lucky one’s of you out there, it’s so easy to feel guilty about your luck, when there are so many people with little or no luck at all. Don’t feel guitly, just enjoy it while you have it, be greatful.  It’s not an easy thing for some people to enter a lot of competitions and never win a thing, and here you come winning something every now and then.  So enjoy the luck, because you don’t know when it’ll run out, and when it does, you will feel a little less bitter, knowing all the blessings you have received.

So when you are sitting somewhere by yourself, thinking as us woman so often do, mulling and trying to make sense of the world, and asking so many questions. . .figure out the one’s with answers and for the rest..well…WHY ASK?

Hope everyone has a great Friday and weekend!

Does Absence make the heart grow fonder?

“It is said that absence makes the heart grow fonder”… and in conflict with that it is also said “Out of sight out of mind.”  Which one of these statements is really ever true?

I have found that when in love absence does make the heart grow fonder.  The longing, the anticipation as you wait to see that person again, to hear their voice and touch their hand.  It is a difficult thing when absence is forever, a heart breaking unbearable pain.  As the absence gets longer, the heart aches more, with every passing of every waking day, your feet gets heavier and your spirits are lower.  But oh how sweet a reunion it is when you meet each other once again, the long awaited kiss, the lingering stare, the knowing that all is right in the world.  Tomorrow the sun shines brighter just because of that person.  We are not meant to travel life’s paths alone; we need someone to witness, to participate, to scold and to applause. .. 

I have also found that when anger is involved out of sight is truly out of mind . . . the need to forget about someone, the longing not to hear their voices again or to look into their eyes.  And when absence is forever, it is not so difficult, because as the absence grows longer, the memories fade, until it is all but forgotten.  It’s a cruel thing cutting strings with another life, but however cruel it might be, a much needed thing to do sometimes.  When you feel your heart getting heavier, your spirit’s laying low, when your hearts humming bird has died from the cold snow.  When knives are stabbed into your back, and pain causes a heart attack, with every word and every deed, some people plant an evil seed, those are the people best to forget, and save yourself a lot of regret.  Cut your losses and then move on, so the sun may return and your heart may sing once more.

Everybody deserves someone to love and to be loved; it’s not an easy thing to find.  But when you do hold on and be good, make hearts grow fonder when absence is around.  Think twice before you do something hurtful for revenge, and let go when you can see it’s not right. Be good to others and in return they ought to be good to you, and if they’re not you know what to do. . .